助產師沒辦法一直在妳的身邊(中英文)

助產師沒辦法一直在妳的身邊

但記得~莫急 莫慌 莫害怕~

恭喜你們有一個小小的人兒加入你們的生活中，他有著小小的三個需求：

1.肚子餓了能吃的飽足感

2.有個胸懷可以倚靠的溫暖

3.寂寞了有人在旁邊陪的安全感。

滿足了這些需求，他就可以快樂健康的長大。然而他沒有帶手表，他的生理時鐘可能和你們的日常步調很不協調，讓你再也無法照著自己的時刻表規律的作息；你可能再也無法一覺到天亮了。你準備好接受他的來臨了嗎？

為人父母雖然辛苦，但是在你滿足嬰兒的需求過程當中，你也同時得到嬰兒對你完全的愛及信任。隨著孩子一天天的長大，透過孩子的眼睛，你們將重新再認識發現這個世界。也只有你們 ─ 嬰兒的父母，可以提供他無條件的愛，安全的環境，良好的保健，滋養他的自信，教導他享受人生。

每個孩子都是不同的個體，有著不同的氣質。有的嬰兒非常安靜，而可以自得其樂。吃飽睡覺，睡飽後可以快樂的自己玩，很少需要他人的注意。有的嬰兒一醒來馬上就要吃，吃的時候身體常扭動，不專心吃。吃飽了還要人家陪他玩，抱著他。睡覺的時間不長，而且很容易就被吵醒。這兩個截然不同的嬰兒都是正常的嬰兒。

在嬰兒未出生前，對於照顧嬰兒的方式你可能會有很多的計畫和想法；當嬰兒出生後，建議你根據嬰兒的特質再重新評估；不要強迫嬰兒符合某些固定的型態或方式。

雖然在你養育孩子的過程中，會有很多家人、親戚、朋友、或書籍提供給你各種教養的方式，但是沒有一種是絕對正確的方式(例如：嬰兒應該自己睡，還是和爸媽一起睡？)。

你必須根據嬰兒特別的氣質、你自己的信仰、及你的家庭生活型態，創造出你自己帶孩子的方式。從一開始就注意到嬰兒的特質，並順其氣質來引導他，對他將來的自信及與良好友愛的人際關係是一個很重要的基石。

感謝

玫儀幫我翻譯成英文呢

A letter to parents of newborns from a midwife--Mai-Li

—Don’t panic, don’t be afraid!

Congratulations on the safe arrival of your newest family member! Your newborn babies need nothing but three important demands and they will grow up happily and healthily as long as you fulfill their demands. Here are their three demands:

1. Feed your babies when they feel hungry.

2. Cuddle them when they need your warm chest.

3. Stay with them when they feel lonely or unsecured.

Your babies don’t wear a watch. You can’t ask them to eat with you, sleep with you or get up at the same time as you do. It is inevitable to be waken up by your newborn baby. Are you ready for that?

It is no way easy to be parents. However, when you meet their needs, you will gain their trust and love. Moreover, you will see this world with different point of view via your babies’ eyes. Remember that you are the only person who can give your babies unconditional love, safe environment, good health. You are the person who can help your babies develop self-confidence and teach them how to enjoy their life. Every baby was born unique and original.

They have different personalities. Some babies are very quiet without much attention. They can fall asleep straight away after drinking milk and play after waking up, but some of them need to be fed as long as they wake up. Moreover, they might twist their bodies while drinking and need someone to play with or cuddle them all the time. And some of them don’t sleep long and can be easily waken up. They are completely different, but all of them are “normal”

As parents, you might have a lot of plans or thoughts on nursing your babies before they are born. However, after they were born, I would like to suggest you to modify your plan based on your babies’ personality. Do not force your babies to accept specific lifestyles. Your relatives, friends or so-called “experts” would enthusiastically provide you with ways of nursing your babies, but there is no single” right” way to raise your babies. What you are supposed to do is to find out what lifestyle is best for your babies according to their different personality. Observing your babies and letting their personality guide you to create the best way to nursing them is the cornerstone of developing your babies’ self-confidence and good relationship with others.